1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
This is what the Bible outlines as the definition of love. This love as described in the verse above, is very important, It is not geared only to loving your fellow man, but loving your partner. Let’s break this verse down in terms of relationships.
Love Is Patient
Patience is key in any relationship. A lot of relationships end in haste. Someone’s feelings got hurt, and we walked out, because of anger. A relationship is the process of being together, via working things out as they come along. This calls for patience. If you walk away from a relationship, because you don’t want to put in the work, you were NOT in a “relationship”. You are not following the process of working things out. Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not hit on his spouse, or verbally abuse her. Love does not damage her husband’s belongings, calling him a b++ch and emasculating him.
To be in a relationship, you MUST be in a process of working things out. Working out finances, kids, travel, or whatever it maybe. This my friends takes patience. Sometimes, great patience. But, to those who persevere, comes the reward. That reward is Love.
Love Is Kind
It is easy to become provoked to anger, when our partner has done something we don’t like. Or has made a decision, we disagree with. However, is a cancer that ruins the best of relationships. What good is forgiveness, if we continue to harbor anger in our hearts? Remember, love is not easily provoked. Have we then truly forgiven our partner? Or have we just suppressed the issue. Suppression only leads to the problem resurfacing. Do we love our partner to stop anger in it’s tracks? We must realize, our partner may not see things as we do. They may process situations differently. Although, we disagree with the way they handle things, we must stop, and put love first. Calm down, own our feelings, respect our partner and work though the process of a relationship.