Let’s STOP pointing the finger!
A relationship cannot be healthy, if we are constantly bringing up events of the past. To forgive, is to also forget. No matter what anyone has taught you. If you can’t forget one’s actions, you can not fully forgive someone. Because you will always have a prejudice against them. The process works, when you can work through an argument using love. OK, someone will say, “I can’t, I’ve been through this too many times with my partner already to keep forgiving”. Notice the past being brought up again, “I’ve been through this too many times already”. Can you imagine is we asked God for forgiveness, and He replied, “I can’t, I’ve been through this too many times already to forgive you”. OK, I’m not implying we are our Creator. However, we are to be like Him, and in doing so we MUST forgive, and forget to move on. next time you fight, instead of bringing up old arguments, think of what you’re fighting about. Thinking about if it’s worth ruining your relationship. Then think about Love. Put down your finger, work through the process called a relationship.